Custody agreement update
Negotiated stipulation

What we want to change.

Proposed revisions to the custody agreement — school stability, safety, care, support, and relocation.

For attorney reviewMay 2026
Financial obligations
01 / Arrears
01
Formal payment stipulation.
A documented repayment plan for arrears, with default consequences and attorney-fee language.
Exact balanceMonthly paymentDefault provisionAttorney fees
01
Current estimate~$5,500 owed
School stability
02 / Weekdays
02
Meghan as school-day parent.
School nights and school mornings assigned to the parent who can reliably preserve attendance, punctuality, and routine.
School morningsWeekday routineAttendancePunctuality
02
Documented concern15–30 minutes late
Parent-time structure
03 / Replacement time
03
Ben’s time shifted away from school mornings.
Meaningful parent-time preserved through weekends, long weekends, breaks, holidays, and summer time.
WeekendsLong weekendsSchool breaksSummer
03
GoalRelationship preserved, school protected
Safety accommodation
04 / AngelSense
04
AngelSense mandatory at all times.
Charged, active, and with Tripp during travel, exchanges, outings, and all parent-time.
Device travels with TrippCharger travels with TrippNo disablingImmediate notice if removed
04
PrincipleSafety equipment, not surveillance
Safety and care
05 / Environment
05
Adequate supervision and safe environment.
Parent-time conditions that reflect Tripp’s elopement risk, care needs, and the safety concerns around Ben’s home.
Elopement riskDirect supervisionHome safetyLead exposure concern
05
Open issue1949 house safety questions
Care coordination
06 / Services
06
Required cooperation with care paperwork.
Insurance, ABA, medical records, school records, Medicaid, disability benefits, and therapy authorizations.
InsuranceABAMedicaidSchool recordsTherapy paperwork
06
PrincipleCare cannot be blocked by delay
Medical expenses
07 / Costs
07
Realistic medical-cost structure.
A clear framework for insurance, ABA, uninsured costs, reimbursements, and future disability-related expenses.
Income-based splitMonthly capReimbursement planCoverage first
07
Current issueMedical / ABA arrears included
Decision-making
08 / Final say
08
Strengthened final decision authority.
Clear authority for school placement, therapies, medical providers, communication supports, disability services, and routine care.
School placementTherapiesMedical providersCommunication supportsDisability services
08
PurposeNo paralysis around necessary care
Future planning
09 / Relocation
09
Out-of-state relocation framework.
A stipulated path if Meghan relocates for materially better autism services, school options, family support, or therapy access.
Earliest: September 2027Florida servicesLong-distance scheduleAdvance agreement
09
Legal posturePlan now, avoid a later fight
If relocation happens
10 / Schedule

Long-distance parent-time.

The schedule changes from weekly custody mechanics to planned, developmentally appropriate visitation.

School yearLong weekends when feasible.
SpringSpring break or agreed portion.
WinterChristmas Day at 2pm through the evening before school resumes.
SummerTwo uninterrupted weeks.
Additional timeBy written agreement
Travel logistics
11 / Movement
11
Clear travel rules.
Who pays, who accompanies Tripp, itinerary sharing, disability supports, medication, communication tools, and AngelSense during travel.
Travel costsAdult accompanimentItineraryMedicationAngelSense
11
StandardTravel plan built around Tripp’s needs
Support tradeoffs
12 / Bargaining
12
Support terms tied to relocation consent.
Potential waiver or restructuring of ongoing support only if it helps secure a better long-term plan for Tripp.
Subject to court approvalArrears: handle separatelyCooperation duties: non-waivableClarify travel costs
12
Important distinctionMoney can be negotiated; cooperation cannot
Enforceability
13 / Record
13
Written communication and documentation.
Schedule changes, expenses, school issues, safety concerns, AngelSense problems, travel plans, and reimbursement requests kept in writing.
Schedule changesExpensesSchool issuesSafety concernsTravel plans
13
ResultA complete record when enforcement is needed
Proposed agreement
Summary

Negotiate first. Preserve the record.

A stipulated update gives Ben an off-ramp and Meghan a stronger enforcement path if he refuses.

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